Bullies Are Not Nice People and They Know It!

Bullying statistics are available for cyber-bullying as well harassment at school and at work. The effects can be devastating.

Bullying is an act by one person to intimidate, harm or threaten another. Usually the bully uses his emotional strength or status to infringe on the rights of another.

It can take many forms. I will list a few. 

  • insults
  • physical harm
  • threats
  • name-calling
  • teasing
  • pushing
  • tripping
  • hitting
  • playing mean practical jokes
  • spreading rumors
  • social exclusion

It is not normal behavior. The objective is usually to make a victim feel bad. It can be continuous and result in the victim becoming depressed or suicidal ("bullycide").

Types of Bullying!

Cell phones and the internet give bullies more ways than ever to do their nasty deeds. Derogatory messages can be sent to a victim's phone or email address. They can be repetitive and persist for days or weeks.

The bully wants their target to feel badly about themselves. It is a form of mental and emotional torture. It can happen anywhere. It could happen at a shopping mall when a group of teenagers choose to harass others - usually younger and less in number. 

It could happen at work. Those with some authority or even coworkers could single out a person and insult and intimidate him or her.

It happens often at schools. Teenagers (and even younger students) may decide to have fun at someone else's expense. They will find someone to harass verbally or physically.

Boys tend to use physical intimidation tactics. They may push, shove, trip, hit or spit on someone. Girls tend to be more subtle, but just as vicious.

Are There Ways To Prevent It At School?

There are, but only if the child tells his parents and teachers about it. There are things that the victim may try and things that teachers and parents can do.

The victim can be taught to use appropriate assertiveness. They might say: "Leave me alone. I have already reported your bullying to the principal."

The target of a bully can "hangout" with true friends who are willing to defend him (verbally) and witness the attacks. Friends can tell the bully: "What you are doing is wrong and inappropriate." Victims can also just walk away - if possible.

Victims need to understand that being bullied is not their fault. It is not their fault if they have a disability or look different.

Cyber-bullying can also be ended (sometimes) by changing a cell phone number or email address. Then, being very careful who the number or address is given to.

Another deterrent is punishment for the bully. Cyber-bullies could have their cell phones confiscated and internet access removed.

Cyber-bullies need to very careful if they do things that are sexual in nature. Sexting or publishing nude photos could result in being listed as a "registered sex offender".

Who Is A Bully?

Bullies are not without friends or high self-esteem. There seems to be some joy in watching the bully harass someone. Often the bully travels with a group of followers.

These troubled individuals often have trouble with rules and authority. They tend to do poorly in school and get into trouble with the law. They are known to damage or steal property and abuse drugs and alcohol.

Bullies are typically self-centered, aggressive individuals who believe that violence is a solution to a problem. They display aggressiveness to both adults and children. They need to dominate others and show that they are in control of every situation.

The Effects of Bullying!

The victim of bullying can suffer from depression, fear going to school, and see their school performance decline. If they are targeted for a long time, they may be stunted socially and emotionally.

The targeted prey may respond to the harassment by exhibiting a declining self-image. This can be combined with low self-esteem, anxiety, school absence, and even physical illness. An inability to concentrate and a feeling of worthlessness are also common.

Parents should look for bruises, scrapes, and other marks, if they suspect physical harassment. Other signs are sadness, irritability, outbursts of anger, and changes in sleeping patterns, appetite, and being withdrawn.

Bullying Statistics!

According to the CDC (Centers for Disease Control), Bullycide is the 3rd leading cause of death among young people. Girls, ages 10 to 14, are at the highest risk.

A report from the Human Rights Education Center of Utah states: "An estimated 1.6 million children in grades six through 10, in the United States, are bullied at least once a week."

The National Education Association reports: "Six out of 10 American teenagers witness bullying in school once a day."

According to the National Institute of Child Health: "Both the bully and the bullied are at a greater risk of loneliness, lack of success in school, and become involved in drugs, alcohol, and tobacco."

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